Can You Get Back Together?

When you’re trying to get your ex back, you maybe looking for clues that there’s a good chance of a reconciliation….. but what are they?

Bottom line: if you can identify some of the following signs, there’s real potential for you to re-establish a relationship – no matter how desperate things might seem right now.

1 You Were Together For A Long Time

The longer you were in a relationship with your ex, the more likelihood that you’re going to be able to get back together.

This is because you have a shared history – shared experiences, shared memories, shared understandings – all of which contributed to the positive feelings you had for your partner. These are feelings which won’t go away quickly, and they constitute a strong emotional bond.

If they are as important to your ex as they are to you, then you may have a good foundation for getting back together.

2 You Are Still in Contact With Your Ex

If you’re getting signs that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend wants to communicate with you – whether by text message, letter, email or phone call – then it’s a very strong indication that he or she is open to the idea of the relationship being re-established.

Obviously they think the relationship has possibilities (why would they stay in contact, otherwise?)

And if they’re asking for a face-to-face meeting, then your chances of getting back together are much higher. Even if you have doubts, seeing your old girlfriend or boyfriend face-to-face might well help you decide once and for all whether YOU want him or her back.

3 Your Ex Contacted You First

I think this doesn’t need much explanation. If your old flame contacted you before you contacted them, then clearly they’re missing you and they want some connection.

They may even want a “new” relationship with you.

Even calling with some lame excuse like “I just wanted to find out how you were doing” suggests they care for you, and they have an interest in your well-being.

And the sooner you hear from them after the breakup, the better the chances of getting back together. Anything between one and three months is a great sign, implying you stand a high chance of getting back together.

4 He or She Hasn’t Cleared Their Stuff Out

Again, it’s pretty obvious really. If your lost loved one hasn’t asked to make some arrangements for taking their stuff back from you, then they’re clearly ambivalent about a final split from you.

Some people even use picking up their property as an excuse to see their beloved, so they can start a negotiation for re-establishing the relationship!

What if they come charging over soon after the relationship’s ended to get their stuff back from you?

Well, maybe they’re only acting out of the hurt and pain they felt immediately after the relationship ended. You see, even this isn’t a sign that the relationship’s truly dead and buried.

In fact, if your ex waits for a few weeks to get their stuff, it may be a great sign! Make sure you don’t rush things and don’t drive them away, and you might well have a good chance of getting them back. Hopefully.

5 He or She Is Making The Running

If your dearest is the one who’s taking the time and trouble to contact you, rather than  the other way round, you can be pretty sure there’s a strong attraction.

At the very least, it indicates ongoing interest. But remember that even if they’re not chasing after you they may still be interested in a renewed relationship and getting back together.

So don’t lose hope. In fact you might even want to take the initiative on making contact. There are plenty of good ways to do this, ways which will encourage your partner to see you in a good light, and not to think that you’re harassing them or, worse still, that you’re desperate.

6 Your Ex Keeps On Showing Up Unexpectedly

If your ex-lover keeps cropping up “by accident” or “unexpectedly” wherever you go, it’s highly likely that he or she is feeling jealous and wants to keep an eye on you – either that, or they are consumed with regret. But in either case, it’s a good sign for your chances of re-establishing the relationship.

7 Your Ex Is Calling You

If you find you’re getting phone calls from your once-upon-a-time lover, often out of the blue, and for no obvious reason, it’s definitely a sign that she or he is missing you and wants you back.

Often, particularly if the person doing the calling is a man, your ex will find some “genuine” reason to call you. Clearly if the reason they offer for making the call doesn’t hold up to examination, then you can assume your old flame simply wants to talk to you….

It takes a lot of courage and emotional strength to call up your ex and admit you’re feeling lonely or missing them – especially if you’re planning to tell them you want the relationship re-established!

8 You’re Talking About Intimate Things

Talking about the more intimate matters in life with your ex-partner suggests there’s a deep connection between you. And a deep connection can act as the foundation for making up after breaking up.

Listen very carefully to what your ex-lover has to say to you when they call. The tone of his or her voice – as well as the content of what he or she is saying – can give you a clear indication as to whether you’re being moved into the “friend zone“, or you’re still in the potential partner zone.

9 Your Ex Is Behaving Better Than Before

Many online programs on the internet emphasize the need for the person who wants to re-establish the relationship to change their behavior so they are more appealing to their ex.

So if your ex suddenly becomes somehow better than he or she was in the relationship, showing up in a better and more positive way, you can pretty much take it for granted that something’s going on – maybe it’s a sign he or she wants to get back together with you. (Advice for women: signs you are with a good man.)

10 Have you slept together?

Steady on, don’t get too excited – you need to pay close attention to what sex between exes means.

Sometimes sex is simply about enjoying a “friend with benefits” – you’ve probably heard that expression.

You see, it’s safer to make love to an ex-partner than someone new because you know a past lover’s foibles in bed.

For a moment, think about your motives for sleeping with your ex, and consider whether (a) you’re doing it to feel better, (b) because it’s a nice thing to do or (c) you still feel a deep connection between you.

If you and your partner are feeling strongly drawn to each other or you just can’t stay away from each other, then enjoying physical intimacy in the bedroom may lead to a full reconciliation outside the bedroom!